You were a miracle from the moment I knew you were coming. You were not planned for or even considered a possibility and then there was the reality of you. From that moment, my life has been changed in so many ways. Gone are the times of thinking of only how my decisions impact me. Gone are the moments of guilt free laziness that used to fill my Friday nights. Gone is the lack of empathy for parents whose children struggle to make friends or worry about how their children will succeed in school. Gone is any moment that doesn’t have you in some part of it. And I would not change that for anything.
You are the first thing I think of when I wake up in the morning and the last thing on my mind before sleep claims the end of my day. You are more precious to me than any job, adventure, gift or achievement. Because of you, I have a new name and a new purpose. I am your mom, and that title has redefined every goal and direction of my life.
Yesterday, as we lay talking in the backyard, telling fairy tale stories of puppies and rainbow cities, I had a moment of deep awareness that every one of these moments will shape us both. I want to be more intentional in how I approach these precious times with you, my angel. I want you to be secure in the knowledge that I do not take these times for granted. So often, we wait until life throws us tragedy to say the important and eternal things to the ones we love; I don’t want to wait.
So today, on a very ordinary Monday – as you are in school and I am waiting for the moment that I will pick you up and hear all about today’s adventures – I want to take a few moments to make some promises to you.
I promise to love you, unconditionally – no matter what choices you make – good or bad. I promise to tell you in a loving and constructive way the truth about life and how all of our choices have consequence – both good and bad. I promise to let you cry and console you when you make bad choices, because you will; and to help you find your way back to what is right.
I promise to help you feel good about yourself. There are times when you just won’t feel good about yourself – puberty is not a friend to anyone – but in those times, I promise to help you find ways to look at things in a different way so that you are able to hold your head up high and be proud that you are a miracle – a treasure – a woman made in the very image of God.
I promise to embrace your uniqueness – including wearing multiple bows in your hair and socks that do not match. I promise to praise your creativity and style. I promise to build you up – enough of this world will be looking to tear you down, but, my love, in this house and with this mother, you will find your biggest fan.
I promise to defend you and stand for you. I promise to correct you when you are wrong. I promise to praise you when you are right. And in all things, I promise to be your biggest fan.
I promise to play dolls, jump on the trampoline, swim, dance, color, and bake with you. I promise to find moments to belly laugh and giggle. I promise to be aware that you will not always want me to be your playmate and I promise to try to be present and engaged now that you do.
I promise to hate the first boy who breaks your heart. I promise to love the man you marry. I promise to treasure your future and celebrate your accomplishments. I promise to be the most annoying mom at every sporting event, school musical or play, graduation ceremony, or anything in which you are participating.
And when you are older and the time for my original role of Mom has changed, I promise to support you emotionally. I promise to listen to your advice. I promise to give advice when you ask, and I promise to try not to be offended when you don’t. I promise to be a place of refuge and security and ease. I promise to make your favorite dinner when you come home to visit and I promise to share coffee and laughs whenever you are able.
But most of all, my precious, wanted, treasured, desired, celebrated child – I promise to love you and pray for you every day of your life. I promise to stand in awe before God over the amazing blessing that is you – I promise to lift you up before our heavenly father each day and pray that He guide, protect, and bless you.
I love you, Arden Whitney.
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Ok, tears running down my cheeks as I read this beautiful blog!
I love you dearly, April Dawn Jones, and I want you to know Arden is sooo blessed to have you as Mom!!! Thank you for sharing!